As busy moms, it’s all too easy to fall into the routine of endless to-do lists, juggling responsibilities, and feeling like there’s no time for ourselves. If your like me I’m a task oriented mom… especially since we homeschool. My personality is so drawn to check lists and that adrenaline boost as I check things off. I got myself into this pattern where I became hyper focused on the tasks of that day that I was convinced I had no time for myself or anything I enjoyed doing. My days were 100% focused on the needs of my children and the household responsibilities. What that lifestyle lead to was one completely drained mom who lost herself in motherhood. I hit rock bottom and finally decided it was time to make some changes.
Learning this shift in mindset from “I don’t have time” to “How can I make time?”was pivotal in learning how to incorporate self care into my busy mom life. This shift in my thinking allowed me to go from being burned out to living a more balanced mom life that full filled the needs of my children and myself.
Here are some strategies to help you reclaim your wellbeing while still being a mom who’s there for her family.
1. Reframe Your Perspective
Instead of viewing your busy schedule as a barrier, see it as a canvas for creativity. Consider how you can incorporate your interests into everyday life. Whether it’s listening to a podcast or audiobook while cooking or enjoying a short read during your child’s nap or while the kids have free play time or while waiting for appointments these small adjustments can make a big difference.
Action Step:
Write down three activities you love. Think of one way to integrate them into your daily routine, even if just for a few minutes.
2. Prioritize Yourself
Moms I get the struggle of feeling guilt when taking time for your self. I know we hear this so often but remember, self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Prioritizing your own well-being enables you to be the best version of yourself for your family. I have created a morning routine where I workout and read my Bible … my kids know this is mommy’s time and when I’m done they will have my full attention.
Action Step:
Schedule “me time” on one day this week and treat it just like any other important appointment. Whether it’s a walk, a hobby, or just a quiet moment with a book, make it non-negotiable.
3. Embrace Flexibility
Life with kids is unpredictable, and that’s to be expected! Embracing flexibility can alleviate the pressure of sticking to a rigid schedule. If plans change, consider what you can do in that moment instead of feeling disappointed.
This honestly is a big one for me and still something I’m actively working on because I like my plans and routines and to do lists. I get my mind set on something and when it doesn’t go according to my plans I feel disappointed, frustrated or sad. I’m going to God more often and asking him to guide our days so that we do what is in his plans for our day not my plans. I like to be control but though prayer and daily reminders Im learning it’s better to surrender my days to the lord and live out his good and perfect plans for our lives he knows what we need and what will ultimately serve our kingdom so all we have to do is trust in him and become more flexible with our plans. Trust me when I say this, the days I’m good about being flexible and seeking Gods guidance for our days there is this sense of peace and flow!
Action Step:
Create a list of flexible activities that you can do anywhere, such as drawing, reading, prayer/ meditation, journaling, or even a quick workout. When unexpected moments arise and the plans you had in mind for yourself fall through you have options. Choose from this list what can you do instead of what you had planned that will still fill your cup .
4. Involve Your Kids
Finding joy in activities can often include your children. Explore ways to involve them in your interests. If you love cooking, let them help with meal prep or bake together. If you enjoy gardening, start a small garden together. If you enjoy art do that together. I even enjoy when my kids join in on my workouts. Sometimes being alone is nice but including them in our self care practices can be fun too, they tend to bring laughter, fun memories and even grow to have similar interests when they are apart of things we enjoy.
Action Step:
Choose one activity to share with your child this week. Not only will you enjoy your passion, but you’ll also create lasting memories together.
5. Set Realistic Goals
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the thought of pursuing a hobby or interest when you have little time. Set realistic and achievable goals that fit into your current lifestyle. This approach helps you build momentum without feeling stressed.
Action Step:
Identify a small goal related to your passion. For instance, aim to read one chapter of a book each week or even a goal of reading 2 pages a night before bed or work out for 15 min 2-3 days a week. Small doable goals will help you find time for things you want to do and it will feel achievable so you’re not overwhelmed and give up.
6. Celebrate Small Wins
Recognizing and celebrating small accomplishments can shift your mindset significantly. Every moment spent doing something you enjoy is a victory worth celebrating, no matter how minor it may seem. If your like me and get wrapped up in the day and forget to celebrate or even take time to recognize those small wins. Something I’ve been trying to do more often is an evening gratitude journal where I intentionally pause and think about my day and write down what I’m grateful for. Doing this not only helps me reflect on my day and the small wins it’s also fun to go back and look at past entries and see just how far I’ve come.
Action Step:
Keep a journal to track your “wins.” Write down the little things you do for yourself each week, and take a moment to reflect on how they made you feel.
7. Connect with Other Moms
Finding a community of like-minded moms can provide support, encouragement, and accountability. Sharing experiences and ideas can help inspire you to take time for yourself.
Action Step:
Join a local or online group focused on your interests or motherhood. I do also offer a Facebook Group where we have developed a community that shares recipes, kids activities, and encouragement feel free to join using this link : https://m.facebook.com/groups/1260166845375523/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF
Regardless where you connect with other mommas I encourage you to engage in discussions, share your goals, and encourage each other to carve out time for self-care.
🍃When we’re stuck in the muck it’s hard to see possibilities of when we can even fit in time for our self care practices. As moms we like to put all our focus on caring for our kids and feel guilty if we take away time from them to do things for ourselves. I want to encourage you that shifting your mindset is the first step toward embracing the possibilities of carving out time for yourself.
🍃By reframing your perspective, prioritizing your needs, and involving your children, you can find joy in both motherhood and personal passions. Remember, you are not just a mom; you are a multifaceted individual with dreams, desires and human needs ….Embrace them, and you’ll inspire your family to do the same!